| In what
ways are you different as a leader that you would attribute to your participation
in a From the Four Directions Circle?
I have more clarity.
I have more courage. I believe this has come directly from my experience
of hosting a circle. What am I clear on? On embracing the contributions
I can make. On how I lead. I don't compare myself to others as much as
I used to. I used to worry much more about things like, who has the better
intellectual grasp on what was happening in the world. Now I focus more
on how I show up with other people.
At one of our circle
gatherings, we focused on what we felt the core of our lives was about?
We each shared our perspective. Out of that experience came the following
clarity for me:
I see myself as
a clear pool of a human being in progress that puddles up where there
are things to be remembered.
I have been very
aware of my comparative youth, of my inexperience. I've often felt embarrassed
by this, that I have to cover it up. My circle experience has helped me
to embrace my gifts. Time and time again, I've learned to just say out
loud the most vulnerable thing that I'm feeling. When I do so, other people
seem more able to do so also. That changes all of us. People express gratitude
to me for this. My lessons that I am learning often seem to be the lessons
that other people and organizations I am part of are learning. Maybe some
of this is projection, but I feel lead to learn out loud. This seems to
help others. My circle experience has shown me that learning out loud
with others is a gift.
Here is another
difference I notice as a leader. I used to feel more often that I must
lead by design. This was the key to good leadership. Now I feel that I
can best lead as a transparent learner. For example, at a recent conference
sponsored by the Deming Institute and the Capital Quality Initiative,
Life-Long Learning in the 21st Century, I hosted a session with a friend
and colleague. We chose to not be the "experts" because we didn't think
it was most helpful. Rather our intent was to share our learning with
the larger group. Being passionate mattered. Having the beginner's mind
mattered. We showed up differently. We didn't script a presentation. Instead
we decided what we wanted to learn and asked people to join us.
Did this make a
difference for people? We noticed that people approached us over the remainder
of the conference. They wanted to have conversations with us. We gauged
our success by the meaningful conversations we had. Every exchange seemed
to be highly charged. Every conversation was a mutual, meaningful exchange.
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